Meet your inner Wild Woman
“Wild women are an unexplainable spark of life. They ooze of freedom and seek awareness, they belong to nobody but themselves, yet give a piece of you they are to everyone they meet. If you have met her, hold on to her, she’ll allow you into her chaos but she will also show her your magic.”
-Nikki Rowe
Your inner wild woman or the wild woman archetype technically refers to a woman’s wild uninhibited core. It is her true nature and who she was born to be free of enculturation and socialisation.
We all have this wild woman archetype within us, but many of us have oppressed her due to cultural conditioning, inhibition and the patriarchy.
Honouring our wild and connecting with our inner wild woman means connecting with that which is innate, animal and instinctive about us.
Connecting with our inner wild woman means acknowledging the legacy of our foresisters and remembering our feminine wisdom and power.
It is about breaking free of what is expected from us, standing within our power and walking our unique path.
It is about tasting life fully and experiencing pleasure without remorse.
It is about speaking our truth and speaking up, being heard and being respected by respecting ourselves.
Embracing and connecting with your inner wild woman will make you feel more confident and help you lead a more meaningful authentic life.
Signs of being disconnected or having suppressed your inner wild woman include:
You are confused about what your calling is and /or who you truly are.
You know who you are deep inside and you know what your calling is but you are afraid to truly express yourself and take the necessary steps to fulfil your dreams.
You feel shame around experiencing pleasure.
You often feel powerless and insecure
You are constantly tired and deny your own natural rhythms.
You feel out of synch and disconnected with your body.
Now if you are experiencing any of these signs and would like to be more aligned with your inner wild woman, I would like to share with you a few things which have helped me personally in embracing my inner wild.
Listen to your body
The wild woman is fully connected to her body, her cycles and her sensuality. She is connected to her instinctual and animalistic aspect of her being. She honours her body and listens to it.
A good way to reconnect with your body is to start tracking sensations and labelling them. Take 5 minutes out of your day and find a comfortable quiet place to sit down. Close your eyes. What sensations do you feel in your body and how would you describe them? Are you feeling warm/cold? Pleasure/Pain ? Do you feel a prickling sensation anywhere in your body and so on. You’d be surprised how unaware many of us are about how we are physically feeling on a more detailed level.
Another way of connecting more with your body is of course movement. I personally find that dance is one of the best ways of feeling more connected to my physical self. Dance strengthens the mind body connection. When I dance I “feel” a movement mentally and then execute it physically. My emotions flow through me as they take on physical form, making me feel connected to my body.
Think Critically
The wild woman thinks critically about the world around her. She doesn’t blindly follow what society preaches but creates a life for herself which feels right to her.
Start challenging ideas and beliefs you have by asking yourself, “Are these truly my own original beliefs or have I appropriated them from my culture?” Continue by asking yourself, ” Are these beliefs my mother’s / father’s / families’beliefs”? Then ask yourself how these beliefs feel. Does harbouring these beliefs have a positive effect on your life?Are these beliefs restricting you in any way? Are these beliefs perhaps preventing you from creating the life you truly want?
Spend time with other women/ Spend time empowering other women
To the wild woman true sisterhood is sacred and she loves spending time with other women who empower each other.
Connecting with other women who inspire you and make you feel good about yourself is an important aspect of connecting with your inner wild woman. Women circles where women used to come together to share stories and wisdom have played an important part in the lives of our female ancestors. Try to connect with other women whom you can trust and form strong connections with. Make time to connect with other women and make it your goal to empower other women rather than competing with them.
The wild woman doesn’t compete, she knows she is good enough and seeing other women flourish brings her joy.
Live life creatively
The wild woman wants to create a wild and authentic life, a life that is free from the burden of the values and beliefs of others.
Get creative when it comes to your own life. You can do this by either physically creating things such as art, or by finding “creative” solutions and ways to live the life you want. This could entail trying to live a new different lifestyle which gives you more flexibility by starting your own online business or embarking on an entirely new career journey you didn’t dare to try out before. The key here is to find a way to create a life that fully and authentically suits you without any compromise. And it doesn’t have to happen all at once. It is about starting to take little steps towards the life you are truly meant to live.
Embracing your sensuality
The wild woman is a sensual being who is in touch with her physical needs and sensuality. She has no shame when it comes to her sexuality and feels comfortable in her own skin.
Get in touch with your sensual side and learn how to feel comfortable in your own skin. Now I know for many this is easier said than done. Unfortunately many women still have so much shame about their sexuality and their bodies. This is something which deeply saddens me because the female body in any shape and form is beautiful and should be celebrated.
There are many ways of embracing one’s sensuality and each woman has her own way of what makes her feel fully immersed within her sensuality. This could be a certain type of activity which brings out your sensual side or you may connect with your sensuality by putting on a certain scent, or maybe wearing a piece of clothing that makes you feel sensual. Personally I feel most connected to my sensuality by dancing. Some of the dance forms which make me feel most connected with my sensuality include Belly dance and Burlesque- Now while this truly won’t be for everyone and opinions may defer, I personally feel that these dance forms celebrate the female body and make me feel confident and immersed within my sensuality.
My beautiful wild woman, I hope you have enjoyed some of these ideas of how to connect with your inner wild woman. Cherish her, awaken her and live her. Life is better lived wild and just the way that suits you perfectly.
